I’ve not been writing because i decided to take a break for the holidays. I’m using this week to catch up on my reading, see some movies and think about what my “vision” is for 2010.
The movies and books are the easy part, the “vision” is less concrete and as a result, I’ve been avoiding it. Then i realized that if I write about it as if I were helping someone else, it would undoubtedly “unstick” me as well.
So, in the spirit of offering help and giving it to myself, here are my 6 steps for creating your vision for 2010.
Step 1 — Write down the different parts of your life, i.e. professional, personal, health, community. Whatever you see as important parts of your life.
We all strive to live a balanced life, but more often than not, when we excel in one area, it can create a desert in another. In my case, my coaching business is going very well, but I’ve made no effort to meet new people in Cleveland where I now live. If you’re not in my neighborhood, I probably haven’t met you. (Luckily, I have great neighbors).
I’ve been here a year and I still say that I just moved here. It’s partially not wanting to let go of New York but largely because I just don’t feel connected. There are so many ways to keep in touch with friends that live elsewhere that it’s easy to have the illusion that you have enough friends. I’ve got several close friends, but they all live in other cities — L.A., San Francisco, NYC. You get the idea. I need some friends who I can see in person. Yes, I need new friends.
Step 2 — If there’s something you’d like to change in each category, write it down. Taking my example above, I write under my Personal Life — make new friends. It feels weird to write that down at my age, but anyone who has moved to a new city as an adult knows that it’s not as easy as when you’re younger. We have more things to take care of, less time, more criteria for who we want to spend it with. As adults we often fall in to friendships through our jobs, kids or yoga classes. I work at home with my 2 dogs and am very picky about my yoga. Clearly, I need to do something.
Step 3 — Write down what actions you will take to make the change happen. So for my objective to make new friends, I’ve put “join the art museum” and find a Meetup group. I found one where people meet and let their dogs run around. Perfect. Then if I don’t meet anyone that I connect with, at least i’m doing something for my dogs.
Step 4 — If you’re in to measuring results, you could set goals like in my case “invite one new person to coffee every week.” For me this just feels like pressure, so I’m not going to do that. However, if i notice in February that I’ve not done anything towards the new vision, then I might reassess and add some more specific goals like that.
Step 5 — It also could help to add dates to complete things by. This would be weird for me in the personal portion, but professionally, I know that I want to send out a promotional mailing in January, so i will attach a date to that. At some point, I need to pursue more corporate clients, so I will commit to a date for that too.
Step 6 — Share your goals with someone or partner with someone to support each other in reaching the goals. In my case, this blog post counts as announcing that I’ve made goals. Feel free to check in with me in the coming months. I also have a friend that I’d like to share my goals with to keep me committed.
okay, so those are 6 steps, but let’s say you hate working this way. You like to be a little more lighthearted about creating a vision for the new year. Another option is to write a story about how you see your life. I did this once with a coach that I had and it was very helpful. I wrote as if I were writing in my journal — something like: “I walked downstairs to let the dogs out and went out to get tomatoes from my garden” Part of that vision actually occurred too. Not all of it, but some of it and that was interesting. It’s basically setting an intention. I believe in this stuff because I’ve seen it work.
When I first moved to NYC and was looking for a place to live, I found myself at St Marks Bookshop on 8th Street and I thought “wow, I’d really like to live in this sort of neighborhood.” I ended up finding an apartment on 1st Avenue right in the heart of the East Village. I stood at a payphone screaming to my sister “You just would not believe where I’m standing right now and that I live here!” I was ecstatic.
I felt that way this summer when I ate my lunch on my screened in porch looking out at the vegetable garden that I planted.
Okay, so I’ve now convinced myself of the importance of creating visions in life. I hope i’ve offered some sort of insight for you to do the same for 2010. Happy New Year everybody.

