Recently a friend of mine who is an actor and stand-up comic, sheepishly handed me his card saying, “yeah, I finally have a card. It took a while, but I finally realized I need to have one.” And there you have it – most creative people hate to promote themselves. Normally, I might not have understood his reticence to make a business card, since personally, I’ve always loved having one – as if it confirmed that, yes, I exist. But being new at this blogging thing I have been experiencing some degree of discomfort at promoting myself so openly.
Giving my opinion on a blog is one degree of discomfort, and then getting people to read it is another. I imagine my friends on Facebook rolling their eyes at yet another status update to check out my blog. But then I get a few thumbs up, or a nice comment or a couple of friends in my neighborhood even said they enjoy reading my blog (!), and it seems worth the discomfort. The positive feedback balances out the angst. Also, like anything it gets easier with each post.
It was similar when I first joined any of the social networking sites. On Facebook, it felt weird posting my information, photos, etc. Then it became fun to connect with my friends and not such a big deal. Of course, anyone under the age of 35 is probably not relating to this post at all, but suffice it to say, posting your life online is not second nature for people over 40.
Then I discovered Twitter and since I already posted why i tweet, I’ll just say that in the beginning that also felt strange. I started by sharing a few quotes that I like, but gradually tired of that, and then someone tweeted to “quote tweeters” in general something like, “I’ve got a copy of Bartlett’s too, try saying something original.” Kind of judgmental, but he had a point.
So my courage grew as I realized that it’s impossible to read every single tweet that scrolls by so I might as well figure it out as I went along. It ended up being a nice warm up for the blog.
Once I got used to sharing in 140 characters, it didn’t seem so hard to blog. So back to my friend with the business card – I look at my blog as a business card of sorts. It offers people some resources if they need them, and if they’re considering working with me, they can get a sense of who I am and what my style is and selfishly, I like to write. I’ve found it to be a really good practice to have to come up with something 3 times a week (my personal goal).
My point in telling you all this is to say – yes, it can be hard promoting yourself, but guess what? If you don’t do it, nobody else will, except your Mom and that’s just embarrassing.
It’s a different world out there – you need to get the concept of promoting yourself, even if you don’t necessarily want to engage in it. It doesn’t have to only be online either. There’s the old fashioned way of attending events, requesting informational meetings with people – but have your elevator speech ready. Don’t work through your angst while talking to the Chief Creative Officer who you managed to get a lunch with.
Now I must admit, I’ve also met with my share of blowhard creative people, so if you’re reading this and thinking how great you are at selling yourself, just take a moment to do a little self examination. Maybe even reach out to someone who you trust and ask them how you come across. You want to be confident, not boastful. Proud, yet humble. Have an opinion or point of view, but not a closed mind.
But, back to the people who hate to sell themselves, just remember that to make a living, you have to do it. Some people do it better than others, and some people obviously have more fun at it than others, and some people are fun to watch as they figure it out. And it’s wonderful when someone is promoting something that you really enjoy to see, hear, read, taste, laugh at and hopefully admire and remember. That’s what it’s all about – getting it out there for the world to enjoy, and even better if you can make some money at it.